Are you finally taking the leap into that long-awaited kitchen remodel? And are you doing this with your partner by your side? Just a heads-up: while the planning phase is often full of excitement, the reality of remodeling can be quite the grind. But don't worry, there are skilled kitchen remodeling contractors near you to guide you and make the whole process a bit smoother for you.
How to survive a renovation without destroying your relationship?
Remodeling your kitchen can turn your home upside down (check out our guide, "Prepare Your Heart & Home for the Ultimate Kitchen Upgrade," for tips on how to get ready). And let's be honest, it might test your relationship a bit too. Houzz even found that 12% of couples thought about calling it quits during their remodel. That’s definitely not something you want.
After looking into some advice on psychology.com, we found that common stressors on relationships during times like these include:
- Money
- Neglecting or depriving a partner
- Dishonesty
- Scapegoating (taking anger/frustration out on a partner)
- Controlling your partner
So, relationship tips to surviving a kitchen remodel…hmmmm. Well, if you aren't careful—all of these can come into play during the remodeling process, and we've aligned our relationship survival tips accordingly.
That's our budget, and we're sticking to it!
Is it any surprise that money is one of the leading causes of relationship friction? No. So, it shouldn't be any surprise that the money involved in a kitchen remodel can be a significant source of friction as well.
If you and your partner aren't on the same page when it comes to budgeting, it's going to be a long and tumultuous path because money is a constant theme throughout the remodeling process.
Create a budget you both agree on - including a 10% to 15% emergency cushion for the "just in case" scenarios - and then stick to it.
- Super Tip: Using refaced cabinetry can go a long way towards getting a money-nervous partner at ease.
Never put retirement or emergency savings funds in jeopardy for a kitchen remodel. If that's the position you're in, take the phased approach and spend the money over time on the areas that matter most.
Make space to talk about something other than the remodel
Planning a remodel is like birthing a baby (sort of). The one who wants the remodel the most will eat, sleep and breathe everything-kitchen-design. It's all they can think or talk about. Again, not surprisingly, this makes the other partner want to commit harikari over the sharpest granite slab sample.
Create "remodel free" spaces in your life (the bedroom comes to mind) and go on dates where remodeling talk is off limits (see, it really is like having a baby) so you remember there's more to life than new cabinets and countertops.
Be honest - and communicate often
This one's simple (but not always easy). Always be honest with your partner about what was selected, how much it costs, how long it will take, about the selections you actually made, and so on.
Remember, open communication is key to remaining somewhere near the same page, even if you aren't always on it.
Breathe deep and stop blaming others
When we're stressed, we often lash out at those we love most. There's no doubt remodeling is stressful. When you're feeling that stress, own it and warn your partner. Feel free to step out of the room, take a break from the conversation and get some fresh air. Always and think twice before saying something hurtful or that you'll regret later.
Choose, compromise & concede
Even if you feel your partner has zero style, he/she lives in the home, has a vested interest and deserves a say. Perhaps you can find something that is up his/her alley and allow "free" reign in that department (lighting design, budgeting, or painting?).
There will be times when you have to compromise or even concede—and that's fair. In all of the hundreds of remodels we've done, we've never finished one that the owners didn't enjoy - even if each one didn't get their way on every decision.
And, that's the great news. When you pay attention and honor these 5 survival tips, you'll wind up with a kitchen you're excited to live in—and that's a fantastic thing for your relationship.
Where can I find reliable kitchen remodel contractors near me?
With the right preparation, clear communication, and a helping hand from experienced contractors, you can navigate this journey smoothly. Just give us a call at (866) 525-0012 or set up a free design consultation and we’ll make sure to create a space filled with love, laughter, and memorable meals.
